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ASK CARRIE: Dealing With The Spiteful Baby Mama.. As the New Girlfriend/Wife.11 Comments
This question came from a friend of mine on FB..and was my status today
HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH A SPITEFUL BABY MOMMA, WHO HAS NO RESPECT FOR YOUR MARRIAGE? I just don’t understand, if it didn’t work out between you and the father, and he is a good father, why hate the girlfriend or the wife? How should the new girlfriend/wife deal with this woman if the man has already put her in her place & she’s still disrespectful?
Well… *rolls up sleeves*
think about it as long as Dad is single SHE and HER child are a priority to his life.. a man that is single will do almost anything for his baby mama that she asks…change a lightbulb, drop her here, fix a pipe, install a cabinet, pick her up from there, lend/give her money, lend her their car, lend her their house ….even slide up in her when they are having an emotional moment because he almost feels obligated to do so… once he gets a new boo, girlfriend, wife, etc.. now ONLY THE CHILD is the priority….and all else stops.. all the things he was willing to do for her he’s now doing them for another woman and chicks get VERY salty over that.. so it’s jealousy for the most part… she hates that you took her position.. even if she didn’t want him for a relationship… she ‘s mad she isn’t getting anymore of the exclusive treatment..
So to answer the how do you deal with it part of the question.. If the ex baby mama doesn’t want to have a relationship/conversation/ be cordial with you there is NOTHING, I repeat NOTHING you can do about it…. just be polite and keep it… moving… you cannot control someone else’s ignorance, anger or jealousy and it doesn’t make sense to even waste your breath trying.. some people just want to not like you and no matter what you say or do will continue to NOT like you.. there is no rule that says you have to respect the wife.. it would be nice in an ideal world.. but this world isn’t ideal..
And another friend of mine lends this advice to you…
and a great answer from my girl @trinidadpena
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